Uncovered Webs of Lies

 It doesn't take much to lie. 

It doesn't take much to pretend to be a "victim" and not disclose one's actions, one's premeditated actions and intentions.  As long as there are sycophants to clap, as long as one shrieks loud enough.  Truth cannot be known. 

Those are common traits of female narcissists - females who do everything to get their way, whether by deceit or lies, it does not matter to them. These are women such as Beatriz Grimaldi who prey and groom men to leave their families and then, after boasting about their "success", still demand silence from those who know the truth. Silence from those who have born the brunt of their devious and sociopathic behaviour. 

Truth troubles liars. 

Especially liars who get caught. 

Especially liars who know that their actions and lies are known. 

So all truth must be shut down, silenced, thus enabling liars to continue weaving their web of lies. Webs and webs of lies and deceit. 

Not all webs of lies are buried in silence 

Why should webs of lies be buried in silence? 

Silence only benefits abusers, homewreckers and narcissists who cause harm to others. 

Intentionally. Knowingly. Ruthlessly. 

The harm, the deceit, the lies - all deception, , usurping another woman's life, her home, her family, leaving women homeless - Beatriz Grimaldi knows well. 

The female predator,  Beatriz Grinaldi knows very well that she is a predator and as many female narcissists, will not tolerate that the truth is uncovered. 

Why Work?

 

 Why work when you can simply do as this Beatriz Grimaldi who hunts, preys, targets and grooms older men to leave their families?

Beatriz Grimaldi spends months grooming older men to leave their families. Then, despite being unemployed, rushes to catch a flight to meet them. And beg for more trips. 

This woman knows exactly what she is doing; she knows the older man has a family and a partner/wife but that does not stop her. She will spend months "advising" him about family affairs she has never witnessed nor truthfully knows about. It does not matter to her. Beatriz Grimaldi considers herself above all that. What is important is that she succeeds in influencing the man to treat his partner/wife like garbage, to the point of kicking her out of her own home - and in the midst of a global pandemic no less. 

Meanwhile she will continue travelling with him, paid for by him and continue influencing him . What follows after stealing the family home away from the partner/wife who owns 50% ?

Threats. And more threats, After flaunting what she has done on SM - where she catches her prey - she will scream out for police, lawyers and threats. The truth cannot be known. Whoever knows the truth must have be put in prison, far, far away where whoever knows the truth can be silenced forever. 

Off with her head! Off with her head!

That is what Beatriz Grimaldi who uses Bologna as a base , is like. She is above all morality, above everyone. The self proclaimed "artist" who considers herself untouchable and for whom rules and ethics do not apply.  An "artist" who boasts about unfocused images being "art" because they capture the shadow of a lover who she stole from another woman. Art??? 

Beatriz Grimaldi's "art" is being a professional home-wrecker and gold digger. Her "art" is lying, hiding evidence after publicly boasting about it. Her "art" is usurping the lives of other women. 

Why work? 

Why be honest?

No need. 

Live off men. Sleep with older men to achieve social status and benefits. Destroy the lives of others because it suits you .  Usurp the life of another woman, take her husband, take her home, then after boasting and flaunting it all, cry out with threats to silence those who know the truth.  Do everything to silence those who know the truth. 

No need to work. 

In Cold Blood

 

The woman known as Beatriz Grimaldi - a woman from Brazil who uses Bologna as a base to hunt, prey, target and groom older men to leave their families. 

This Beatriz Grimaldi targets her prey well; they are all older men, professionals, unlike herself. 

This woman claims to be an "artist" yet no one has heard of her. This woman claims to be a "social event planner" yet has no qualifications for such a position - other than manipulating and selling herself to those who can give her such a job. 

This woman quickly flew to Paris to meet the man she had been grooming for months. Unemployed but still went running to Paris and then begged to be taken to London. 

As Covid spread around the world, Beatriz Grimaldi was not affected; Harri Mutka gladly paid her trips to Venice, around Italy, around Europe and  to Sri Lanka and Mauritius. All wonderfully flaunted by Beatriz Grimaldi but paid for by Harri Mutka. Lot of "love" must be sprinkled on Social Media for all the paid trips. 

This is a woman who acts in cold blood. Beatriz Grimaldi grooms older men for months on social media. Once the men leave their families, she rushes to meet them, persuades them to kick their wives out of the family home (regardless whether the wife owns 50% or not), influences men to threaten and further abuse their families. 

In Cold Blood. 

This is a woman with a history of abusing women, despite her claiming to "care" about homeless women. This is a woman who does not need to work her way up in the world - so much more comfortable to lie on your back, pretend being some kind of "artist" and have men from other women pay for you. 

In Cold Ruthless Blood. 

She flaunts what she does and then, when it is public, will cry out for police and lawyers while hiding public evidence. 

Female narcissists are manipulative and liars. 

Harri Mutka and the Harm of NPD

 "She said I was too feminine and was a homosexual."

"She said she wished I would get a terminal sexual disease."

"She came into the bedroom with a long, sharp knife, ready to stab me. "

These are the tales of Harri Mutka when he speaks of his ex-wife (one of his many partners). 

Harri Mutka, a covert narcissist, plays the victim well. Yet when asked what he does to women, why women react like that to him, he goes silent. Stonewalling all questions into a dead silence. 

People who suffer from NPD struggle with self-esteem and interpersonal relationships. Harri Mutka is a champion in disguising that. He will love bomb the new supply/replacement, feeling temporarily satisfied with his new replacement, happily showing off the new replacement. 

However, NPD is deeply ingrained in him - and his behaviour does not change. With time, his narcissistic traits will show up: lying, gaslighting, dishing out the silent treatment, retreating and denying human affection and communication. Once a woman is of no use to him, he will discard her brutally, as she no longer is considered even as a human being. 

It his last ex partner that he most used, abused and trashed. A woman who shared 50% of  expenses with him, who was honest, hard working and made a home like he never had. Yet it was this person that he was the most brutal to, the most cowardly, not even able to give closure. Because there often is no closure with narcissists. 

Narcissists may keep up the love bombing phase for a while,  remain in a resting period for a while, but their true nature is there. They will constantly have women on the side, constantly lie and blame the other for imagined offences. The other is merely an object for their self validation and nothing more. Narcissists may like the idea of being in love but their "love" is only an infatuation and usually a short term infatuation as they get bored easily and are not able to build long, lasting relationships. 

It's all illusions and facades with a narcissist. Only their lies come in consistent waves; so many lies that Harri Mutka is unable to keep up with his own lies. As a partner, you are only "feed" for a narcissist's self validation and their mask of being a decent human being will slip with time. 

Until the final discard moment which becomes more vicious and nastier with age - or so Harri Mutka has shown. As sure as rain, the moment will come when, faster than a flip of a switch, the partner will be discarded as a non human being, and he will do everything possible to harm, hurt and violate the person who was his partner and had made a home for him and his children. 

Harri Mutka - Narcissistic Abuse

 

First girlfriend slept with his best friend. 

First long term relationship was only because she came from a happy family but he was unable to make her happy. 

Then he went into another relationship, had two more children but could never be faithful to her. 

"When I want a woman, I will stop at nothing to have her" so he always says. 

Taking into account the pain he inflicts on his partners does not matter for Harri Mutka. His lies remain as glaring as his actions. 

Then he married a woman who used him as an ATM machine. Ignored him mostly and would not even cook for his children. He supported her and her two daughters. It came to the point when this wife entered the bedroom with a long, sharp kitchen knife to end him. he then found an apartment for her and her two daughters. 

If you ask him why this happened - after all, the wife had a good life - Harri Mutka goes silent. 

Because he cannot live on his own without a woman, there was another woman. A woman who gave up everything for him. A woman who was understanding, contributed 50% to everything, made a home, excused him for all his short comings. A woman who was dedicated to him, who supported him and loved him. 

That too was not enough for Harri Mutka. He had to lie, gaslight, give her the silent treatment as punishment for existing.When she was ill, at her most vulnerable, he made her even more ill. He lied to her until he had secured a new replacement and even then it was with a text message in the middle of the night. Too cowardly to even be honest about that. 

Yet, if you ask Harri Mutka about these women (never mind all the other in between women), he will always call them crazy and unbalanced. 

As an architect, as someone who is intelligent, this begs the question - how can all these women be crazy and unbalanced? Why does he go silent and refuses to have any responsibility to what he does to women? 

"I am a lone wolf" so he claims. 

No. Harri Mutka is no lone wolf. He is addicted to having new women on a constant basis. 

Today he is with a female narcissist who preys for older, married men on FB and IG, who grooms them until they leave their families. Today, he pays for this gold digger and homewrecker . 

Harri Mutka the #Narcissist in Tampere

 

After years of being supported and cared for...

After years of sharing expenses, dreams, travels, a life....

After years of having had a home like no other....

The narcissist will no longer be able to control his addictions to having new women. The resting phase is over. 

Harri Mutka has used and abuse women for years (he is almost 60 now). However, it was to his last partner that he unleashed all his narcissistic evil and hatred towards women - to the point of bullying and threatening out of her own home. 

He may be addicted to women and lying, but there is also a hidden hatred towards anyone who is creative, anyone who has light and life inside them. He will pretend, use and abuse until he secures a new supply - currently with a woman who lies and who picked him up on FB and IG , and boasts about what she did. 

Narcissistic abuse can never be normalised. 

Harri Mutka - And #Narcissism

 

"When I want a woman, I will stop at nothing to have her".... so says Harri Mutka. 

Yet, if you ask him what he has done to women, you probably will hear:

"She said I was a bad lover" (followed by tears)

"She said I was not a real man, but a homosexual" (more tears follow).

That was the woman who he had married and had said to him. 

His previous partner, the mother of his two children in Tampere can barely say his name without spitting out venom and hatred. If you ask him why, if you ask him how such a lovely person can become so full of disgust when saying his name, he will shrug and call her mad, unbalanced. 

Mad. Unbalanced. All his women seem to have this characteristic after a while. 

Does Harri Mutka have any responsibility of making women mad? Of making women unbalanced?

Could it be his tendency to lie, to gaslight, to withdraw attention and affection, to deliver the silent treatment as punishment? Could it be his mania of spending time with other women on his mobile? Waking up, going to the washroom with his mobile? Hiding every text message and making up excuses and lies for why he is texting every night always at the same time?

Could it be his tendency to have jealousy attacks when there is absolutely no reason for any jealousy? 

This is what a narcissist looks like. This is how a narcissist behaves. He will isolate, lie, and project his behaviour to others, in particular, to the woman closest to him. 

He will go off to Paris to meet his new replacement, still making promises of future plans. 

He will rewrite narratives to suit himself, always portraying himself as a victim. He will manipulate emotions to suit himself, turning his insecurities into another person's flaws. 

Pretending to be something he certainly is not (e.g. an international expat), he will love bomb and then suddenly withdraw, push you away, ensure that you are isolated and left wondering what you have done. Actions and words do not match. 

Never an apology. That would be below him. 

"I am a lone wolf; I don't want to be with another woman". So he said on the eve of going to Paris to meet his new replacement, a gold digging Brazilian called Beatriz Grimaldi in Bologna. 

As if all this was not sufficient, not enough to hurt, he still had the audacity of telling his estranged partner how women in Paris were not as good as women in Finland, how Parisian women were not interested in sleeping with him. Boo hoo.... poor you....

This is not a 14 year old. This is a 60 year old architect who takes pride in hiding his darkness and cruelty to women. This is a man who used, abused and then brutally trashed the woman who had made a home for them - and even bullied and threatened her out of her own home. 

This is Harri Mutka in Tampere in a nutshell - a person who holds grudges out of nothing, who makes his partner feel vulnerable and unworthy, and who will be the most vindictive in order to please his new replacement - currently a Beatriz Grimaldi in Bologna who picked him up on FB and IG. 

Harri Mutka - The Narcissist in Tampere

 

Narcissists have their own particular way of thinking. 

This is an example of a narcissist in Tampere. 

Whenever you ask about the women in his life - of which he has three children from two different women - he will always blame the women for not being good enough for him .

Let's consider:

He wanted the mother of his first child because she came from a happy family. Yet he was not able to give her a lasting happiness. And will still make himself to be the "victim" of a failed relationship. 

He then moved on to another woman with who he had two children - even claiming that he did not want more than one child. He made her life miserable with regular affairs with other women, not giving her the necessary support and in fact, abandoning her needs when she most needed support. It is not wonder that she left him and has a happy life now. 

Until today, she spits out his name, with venom.  

Being addicted to women, Harri Mutka quickly moved on. This time to another woman who demanded that he marry her. And so he did. The woman had two daughters and he supported them all. As soon as they all moved in together, the wife stopped cooking for him and his children - she practically stopped doing anything at all for his children. Harri Mutka was used as an ATM machine on two legs. 

Yet.. why would a woman who was being so well financially supported, go to the bedroom at night with a sharp kitchen knife, ready to stab him? If you ask Harri Mutka, be prepared for his regular explanation - she was mad. 

Another mad woman? Another woman who did not understand him?

Is it possible that a grown up, intelligent man actually collects mad women?

The marriage counsellor they went to was quick to see what kind of man Harri Mutka was - an addict to women. Not only a porn addict, but addicted to having new women all the time. 

This is visible in many ways - pretending to be shy, polite and hesitating, Harri Mutka love bombs his new replacements readily. 

However, it was his last partner that he abused the most - a woman who paid 50% of everything, including for his children. A woman who made the home he never had had, who tool on board his children, his dark badly explained past, a woman who understood that life was not always a straight path. 

It was precisely this woman who Harri Mutka most used, abused and trashed.  Having lied for months and months making her more ill by the day, he finally ended the relationship of years with a text message in the middle of the night - "Yes, I have another woman and am seeing other women" . 

That is how Harri Mutka, almost 60 years old, now ends relationships. Not with a passing girlfriend. but with someone who made a life long commitment. Someone who cared for years for his family, had made a home and owned a home with him. 

Not content with that, he also bullied and threatened her out of her own home. 

Of course, if you ask Harri Mutka, he is a victim. He is misunderstood - and will not say a word about how he has affairs, how his behaviour towards women is erratic, mean and nasty. He will not say a word about how he is very comfortable using and abusing women - only to trash them in the discard phase after he has secured a replacement. 

The Harm of a Narcissist called Harri Mutka

 

Narcissists have different lives. They live their lives easily in shadows of deceit. Two-faced and appearing to be what most people believe, Harri Mutka is a prime example of a man who is a blank emotional narcissist  who uses and abuses women. 

He will damage women intentionally, without a care. He will hurt deeply and then treat women as if it didn't matter. 

He will accuse a woman for being creative, joyful. He will accuse a woman for being too talented, too full of life and love of life. 

Charming at first, Harri Mutka soon moves into his well known behaviour of gaslighting women and showing total lack of empathy. 

Women need to know this. 

There are different levels of abuse, emotional and mental abuse are also abuse of women.  NPD is no excuse for hurting others. NPD is no excuse to throw women out of their home. NPD is not an excuse to use and abuse women. 

Bullying a woman out of her home is an abuse of basic human rights. 

Sex Addictions - Harri Mutka and Addictions

 

Beatriz Grimaldi, the woman who picking up old married men on FB and Instagram is a game, a thrill so long as the men pay for her trips and holidays. 

A woman who has no problem in destroying the lives of others as long as she gets paid. A woman who will pretend and lie to get what she wants, regardless of the lives she destroys, especially women's lives. A woman who claims to care about homeless women but she herself makes women homeless.

Cold,  calculating, acting with precision to achieve her aims, nothing stops her and her pretence of being "innocent". She knew all the time what she was doing. 

Beatriz Grimaldi is the "artist" in Bologna who is a predator of old men for her own pleasure and gain. Wrapped in lies, there are no limits to what she will do. 

And then there is Harri Mutka. An architect in Tampere, addicted to porn, addicted to using and abusing women. His history of women is nothing short of that. Ask the mother of his children in Tampere. Ask his ex-wife who tried killing him with a long kitchen knife - what were her reasons? How did Harri Mutka drive her to that point? After all, he paid for her and her 2 daughters. 

Yet Harri Mutka plays the game of being "innocent", a "victim" of women. 

Really?

He exploited his ex-partner. He made her ill, abandoned her when she was ill with depression and proceeded in gaslighting her, mentally and emotionally abusing her in every possible way. 

He played his game with ease and sophistication. One day he was pleasant while the next day he would watch as she prepared meals for him that he would not touch. He spoke of the future, taking into account her working schedule, then ignored it all by not returning home. 

He refused to answer calls, even when his daughter who was studying in Stockholm was hospitalised. Harri Mutka is well controlled by Beatriz Grimaldi as long as he continues paying for her trips and holidays. 

People such as these, addicted to harming others, hurting others, exploiting others should be known. 

When the world is burning up with so much pain, individuals such as these have no rights to cause further pain. It is not leaving an older woman for a younger woman - that is a common cliche. It is the abuse that Harri Mutka inflicts on women and then tries to hide. 

Harri Mutka - The Empty Architect in Tampere, Finland

 

This is the image he sent on his way to Paris. 

This is the face he hid, joyful, as he was going to meet up with the woman who had picked him on FB and Instagram. 

This is the man who lied about his trip to Paris. 

He was supposed to spend 3 weeks in Paris, had even promised a trip to Denmark in September, but that was never to be. 

Just as returning, was never to be. 

Harri Mutka did return but only after bullying and threatening his partner of years, out of their home. A home of which she owns 50%. A home which was supposed to be sold, yet isn't. 

Why?

Because Harri Mutka is only interested in a quick sale to cover his debts and to keep paying for his Brazilian pick in Italy. It suits Harri Mutka to have a woman pick him in Italy - this is not new. 

Harri Mutka, in all his cowardness and pride in being a bully, also is known for being cheap. He was always comfortable in accepting generosity from his partner who paid 50% of everything and more - including trips for his children, taking him to beautiful places where he would never have gone himself, buying home items to make the home beautiful and comfortable. She ensured that there was always fresh food, varied and healthy. She ensured that his son always had fresh meals - not microwave food. Not that he ever appreciated any of that. Harri Mutka took it all for granted. 

Pretending to be an "international" photographer/ architect, in Paris he tried picking up French women who refused him (and which he then complained bitterly about to his ex partner) while paying for the Brazilian's holiday and trips to Paris and London. She had him well controlled. 

Harri Mutka, with his mild appearance, was too much of a coward to tell his partner what he was going to do. Pretending until he no longer needed to, a text message sent at 11:45pm was his way of ending a relationship of years. The "advice" which Beatriz Grimaldi gave him was all there. This "has been architect" (so his boss calls him), uses women while it is convenient for him. Hollow, vacant of any emotional intelligence, he made his partner increasingly ill, abusing her mentally and emotionally. 

It even got to the point of physical violence - when he punched her after telling her that he wanted an "open relationship" and she dared to ask if that meant that she too was supposed to have another man. That of course was something Harri Mutka did not accept. It was only him who had the right to have a range of women to play around with. 

It is nothing new when men leave their wives-partners for younger women. However, Harri Mutka did more than that - by forcing his partner out of her own home, he made her leave Finland, a country where she had lived and had made her home. No justification other than his cowardness and bullying tendencies. So that he could have their home available for the Brazilian woman in Italy. 

This is not gender equality. Not in a country such as Finland where women have equal rights. 

Harri Mutka - a man who makes women homeless by obeying the orders of Beatriz Grimaldi. Harri Mutka who makes a woman homeless in the midst of a viral pandemic. A pandemic which he is above and makes fun of. 

Finland is a beautiful, fair country. It is men such as Harri Mutka, with his shady history of using and abusing women until he finds a new woman to use, that need to be known. 

Harri Mutka and his Web of Shadows and Lies - Tampere

 Harri Mutka , architect in Tampere, who takes pride in his shadowed life. Pretending to be an honest person, honest as most Finns are, make no mistake - this person is deceitful as he is a bully and coward. 

Consider his history with women: the mother of his children in Tampere practically spits out poison when saying his name. She knows well how Harri Mutka mistreats women. 

His ex wife, on a trip to Prague with him, threw her wedding ring in the river. Back in Tampere, she wanted to kill him with a long kitchen knife when he was in bed. 

If you ask him why, you will get the usual reply of how women are mad, crazy, suffering from insanity. 

Isn't that what all bullies and cowards say? Isn't that the usual, stereotypical way that men speak of women they have harmed?

Harri Mutka often succeeds in his guise of making others believe how "innocent" he is. 

It is "innocent" to make a partner ill? is it "innocent" to lie, deceive, gaslight, mentally and emotionally abuse another person? Is it "innocent" to use a  woman to pay 50% for his children, to use a woman who made a home for him and his children, only to bully and threaten her out of her home (of which she owns50%)?

Is it right to throw out a co-home owner with threats and bullying when Harri Mutka has 2 flats of his own in Tampere? 

All because Harri Mutka now obeys a Brazilian "artist" in Bologna who he pays for. 

Harri Mutka has a history of abusing women and even of his professional position, promising to find jobs for Brazilian females who do not have the slightest qualifications to work at Ramboll. One such case was a female Brazilian who went to Helsinki to meet with him but as she was lesbian, Harri Mutka dropped his effort in getting her a job at Ramboll Finland. 

A sex addict, addicted to using and abusing women, to living in a swamp of lies and deceit, it is time that men who abuse, such as Harri Mutka, are known. Women need to know how pretence and deceit, harming and hurting are what Harri Mutka is all about. As long as a woman is paying 50%, as long as that payment is convenient to him, all is ok. Once a younger woman picks him up, once his lies and deceit can no longer be hidden, it will be then he will deliver the final blow. 

A text at 11:45pm ending an adult, life-long relationship. Saying that yes, he has another woman and is seeing other women. This is from a 59 year old man, not a teenager. 

As if that is not enough, he will then complain about how women in Paris did not sleep with him, how Finnish women are not good enough for him. So are Brazilian gold diggers who control all his actions, good enough?

When his daughter was ill and needed support, did he bother speaking with her? No. His time on his phone was spent with other women. Addicted to having online affairs, these women were more important to him than giving his daughter any kind of support. 

Is this man an example of sound Finnish ethical behaviour?

It is not only the deceit he engages in, but in harmful, hurtful behaviour towards women.  Through bullying, threats and rewriting narratives, Harri Mutka is a danger to women.