Harri Mutka - The Narcissist in Tampere

 

Narcissists have their own particular way of thinking. 

This is an example of a narcissist in Tampere. 

Whenever you ask about the women in his life - of which he has three children from two different women - he will always blame the women for not being good enough for him .

Let's consider:

He wanted the mother of his first child because she came from a happy family. Yet he was not able to give her a lasting happiness. And will still make himself to be the "victim" of a failed relationship. 

He then moved on to another woman with who he had two children - even claiming that he did not want more than one child. He made her life miserable with regular affairs with other women, not giving her the necessary support and in fact, abandoning her needs when she most needed support. It is not wonder that she left him and has a happy life now. 

Until today, she spits out his name, with venom.  

Being addicted to women, Harri Mutka quickly moved on. This time to another woman who demanded that he marry her. And so he did. The woman had two daughters and he supported them all. As soon as they all moved in together, the wife stopped cooking for him and his children - she practically stopped doing anything at all for his children. Harri Mutka was used as an ATM machine on two legs. 

Yet.. why would a woman who was being so well financially supported, go to the bedroom at night with a sharp kitchen knife, ready to stab him? If you ask Harri Mutka, be prepared for his regular explanation - she was mad. 

Another mad woman? Another woman who did not understand him?

Is it possible that a grown up, intelligent man actually collects mad women?

The marriage counsellor they went to was quick to see what kind of man Harri Mutka was - an addict to women. Not only a porn addict, but addicted to having new women all the time. 

This is visible in many ways - pretending to be shy, polite and hesitating, Harri Mutka love bombs his new replacements readily. 

However, it was his last partner that he abused the most - a woman who paid 50% of everything, including for his children. A woman who made the home he never had had, who tool on board his children, his dark badly explained past, a woman who understood that life was not always a straight path. 

It was precisely this woman who Harri Mutka most used, abused and trashed.  Having lied for months and months making her more ill by the day, he finally ended the relationship of years with a text message in the middle of the night - "Yes, I have another woman and am seeing other women" . 

That is how Harri Mutka, almost 60 years old, now ends relationships. Not with a passing girlfriend. but with someone who made a life long commitment. Someone who cared for years for his family, had made a home and owned a home with him. 

Not content with that, he also bullied and threatened her out of her own home. 

Of course, if you ask Harri Mutka, he is a victim. He is misunderstood - and will not say a word about how he has affairs, how his behaviour towards women is erratic, mean and nasty. He will not say a word about how he is very comfortable using and abusing women - only to trash them in the discard phase after he has secured a replacement.