Harri Mutka - And #Narcissism

 

"When I want a woman, I will stop at nothing to have her".... so says Harri Mutka. 

Yet, if you ask him what he has done to women, you probably will hear:

"She said I was a bad lover" (followed by tears)

"She said I was not a real man, but a homosexual" (more tears follow).

That was the woman who he had married and had said to him. 

His previous partner, the mother of his two children in Tampere can barely say his name without spitting out venom and hatred. If you ask him why, if you ask him how such a lovely person can become so full of disgust when saying his name, he will shrug and call her mad, unbalanced. 

Mad. Unbalanced. All his women seem to have this characteristic after a while. 

Does Harri Mutka have any responsibility of making women mad? Of making women unbalanced?

Could it be his tendency to lie, to gaslight, to withdraw attention and affection, to deliver the silent treatment as punishment? Could it be his mania of spending time with other women on his mobile? Waking up, going to the washroom with his mobile? Hiding every text message and making up excuses and lies for why he is texting every night always at the same time?

Could it be his tendency to have jealousy attacks when there is absolutely no reason for any jealousy? 

This is what a narcissist looks like. This is how a narcissist behaves. He will isolate, lie, and project his behaviour to others, in particular, to the woman closest to him. 

He will go off to Paris to meet his new replacement, still making promises of future plans. 

He will rewrite narratives to suit himself, always portraying himself as a victim. He will manipulate emotions to suit himself, turning his insecurities into another person's flaws. 

Pretending to be something he certainly is not (e.g. an international expat), he will love bomb and then suddenly withdraw, push you away, ensure that you are isolated and left wondering what you have done. Actions and words do not match. 

Never an apology. That would be below him. 

"I am a lone wolf; I don't want to be with another woman". So he said on the eve of going to Paris to meet his new replacement, a gold digging Brazilian called Beatriz Grimaldi in Bologna. 

As if all this was not sufficient, not enough to hurt, he still had the audacity of telling his estranged partner how women in Paris were not as good as women in Finland, how Parisian women were not interested in sleeping with him. Boo hoo.... poor you....

This is not a 14 year old. This is a 60 year old architect who takes pride in hiding his darkness and cruelty to women. This is a man who used, abused and then brutally trashed the woman who had made a home for them - and even bullied and threatened her out of her own home. 

This is Harri Mutka in Tampere in a nutshell - a person who holds grudges out of nothing, who makes his partner feel vulnerable and unworthy, and who will be the most vindictive in order to please his new replacement - currently a Beatriz Grimaldi in Bologna who picked him up on FB and IG. 

Sex Addictions - Harri Mutka and Addictions

 

Beatriz Grimaldi, the woman who picking up old married men on FB and Instagram is a game, a thrill so long as the men pay for her trips and holidays. 

A woman who has no problem in destroying the lives of others as long as she gets paid. A woman who will pretend and lie to get what she wants, regardless of the lives she destroys, especially women's lives. A woman who claims to care about homeless women but she herself makes women homeless.

Cold,  calculating, acting with precision to achieve her aims, nothing stops her and her pretence of being "innocent". She knew all the time what she was doing. 

Beatriz Grimaldi is the "artist" in Bologna who is a predator of old men for her own pleasure and gain. Wrapped in lies, there are no limits to what she will do. 

And then there is Harri Mutka. An architect in Tampere, addicted to porn, addicted to using and abusing women. His history of women is nothing short of that. Ask the mother of his children in Tampere. Ask his ex-wife who tried killing him with a long kitchen knife - what were her reasons? How did Harri Mutka drive her to that point? After all, he paid for her and her 2 daughters. 

Yet Harri Mutka plays the game of being "innocent", a "victim" of women. 

Really?

He exploited his ex-partner. He made her ill, abandoned her when she was ill with depression and proceeded in gaslighting her, mentally and emotionally abusing her in every possible way. 

He played his game with ease and sophistication. One day he was pleasant while the next day he would watch as she prepared meals for him that he would not touch. He spoke of the future, taking into account her working schedule, then ignored it all by not returning home. 

He refused to answer calls, even when his daughter who was studying in Stockholm was hospitalised. Harri Mutka is well controlled by Beatriz Grimaldi as long as he continues paying for her trips and holidays. 

People such as these, addicted to harming others, hurting others, exploiting others should be known. 

When the world is burning up with so much pain, individuals such as these have no rights to cause further pain. It is not leaving an older woman for a younger woman - that is a common cliche. It is the abuse that Harri Mutka inflicts on women and then tries to hide.