Harri Mutka and the Harm of NPD

 "She said I was too feminine and was a homosexual."

"She said she wished I would get a terminal sexual disease."

"She came into the bedroom with a long, sharp knife, ready to stab me. "

These are the tales of Harri Mutka when he speaks of his ex-wife (one of his many partners). 

Harri Mutka, a covert narcissist, plays the victim well. Yet when asked what he does to women, why women react like that to him, he goes silent. Stonewalling all questions into a dead silence. 

People who suffer from NPD struggle with self-esteem and interpersonal relationships. Harri Mutka is a champion in disguising that. He will love bomb the new supply/replacement, feeling temporarily satisfied with his new replacement, happily showing off the new replacement. 

However, NPD is deeply ingrained in him - and his behaviour does not change. With time, his narcissistic traits will show up: lying, gaslighting, dishing out the silent treatment, retreating and denying human affection and communication. Once a woman is of no use to him, he will discard her brutally, as she no longer is considered even as a human being. 

It his last ex partner that he most used, abused and trashed. A woman who shared 50% of  expenses with him, who was honest, hard working and made a home like he never had. Yet it was this person that he was the most brutal to, the most cowardly, not even able to give closure. Because there often is no closure with narcissists. 

Narcissists may keep up the love bombing phase for a while,  remain in a resting period for a while, but their true nature is there. They will constantly have women on the side, constantly lie and blame the other for imagined offences. The other is merely an object for their self validation and nothing more. Narcissists may like the idea of being in love but their "love" is only an infatuation and usually a short term infatuation as they get bored easily and are not able to build long, lasting relationships. 

It's all illusions and facades with a narcissist. Only their lies come in consistent waves; so many lies that Harri Mutka is unable to keep up with his own lies. As a partner, you are only "feed" for a narcissist's self validation and their mask of being a decent human being will slip with time. 

Until the final discard moment which becomes more vicious and nastier with age - or so Harri Mutka has shown. As sure as rain, the moment will come when, faster than a flip of a switch, the partner will be discarded as a non human being, and he will do everything possible to harm, hurt and violate the person who was his partner and had made a home for him and his children. 

Beatriz Grimaldi - Bologna

 

Pretends to be an artist?

Check. 

pretends to be a professional social event planner?

Check. 

Pretends to be Mother of all Buddhas?

Check.

Pretends to be compassionate?

Check. 

Reality:

Beatriz Grimaldi is a home wrecker who uses Bologna as a base to prey on FB and IG for married men. She will spend months grooming them, persuading and advising them to leave their families. 

Once she has succeeded, she will boast about what she did and cry out for "discretion". Discretion??? After publicly posting the same image as the man she is with and whose marriage she intentionally and knowingly destroyed?

Is this compassion?

For people who lie,  it may be. 

Reality is different. 

Reality is what people actually do. Ruthlessly, systematically destroying lives of others. 

And then boasting about what they did and do.  

Not a shadow of human compassion. 

Not a shadow of being human. 

Beatriz Grimaldi the Gold Digger

 

Gold digger - definition:

a person who forms relationships with others purely to extract money from them, in particular a woman who strives to marry a wealthy man.

Gold digger in Bologna who operates across borders as she preys for married men on FB and IG: Beatriz Grimaldi 

Lots of love and hearts now as Harri Mutka will be receiving a lump sum soon. (a lump sum he will always regret to receive). 

Nothing like stealing a home from a woman as Beatriz Grimaldi does. 

Nothing like boasting about it publicly and then crying out what a poor "victim" she is. 

Beatriz Grimaldi is no victim. 

Beatriz Grimaldi is a gold digger who operates from Bologna on FB and IG, grooming men to leave their families. pretending to be a social event planner, her plans focus solely on the financial benefits she may receive from men - and destroying lives of other women. 

No country needs these gold diggers. Time for Beatriz Grimaldi to return to Brazil where she belongs. 

(perhaps after sucking out enough money from men in EU?)

Harri Mutka - Narcissistic Abuse

 

First girlfriend slept with his best friend. 

First long term relationship was only because she came from a happy family but he was unable to make her happy. 

Then he went into another relationship, had two more children but could never be faithful to her. 

"When I want a woman, I will stop at nothing to have her" so he always says. 

Taking into account the pain he inflicts on his partners does not matter for Harri Mutka. His lies remain as glaring as his actions. 

Then he married a woman who used him as an ATM machine. Ignored him mostly and would not even cook for his children. He supported her and her two daughters. It came to the point when this wife entered the bedroom with a long, sharp kitchen knife to end him. he then found an apartment for her and her two daughters. 

If you ask him why this happened - after all, the wife had a good life - Harri Mutka goes silent. 

Because he cannot live on his own without a woman, there was another woman. A woman who gave up everything for him. A woman who was understanding, contributed 50% to everything, made a home, excused him for all his short comings. A woman who was dedicated to him, who supported him and loved him. 

That too was not enough for Harri Mutka. He had to lie, gaslight, give her the silent treatment as punishment for existing.When she was ill, at her most vulnerable, he made her even more ill. He lied to her until he had secured a new replacement and even then it was with a text message in the middle of the night. Too cowardly to even be honest about that. 

Yet, if you ask Harri Mutka about these women (never mind all the other in between women), he will always call them crazy and unbalanced. 

As an architect, as someone who is intelligent, this begs the question - how can all these women be crazy and unbalanced? Why does he go silent and refuses to have any responsibility to what he does to women? 

"I am a lone wolf" so he claims. 

No. Harri Mutka is no lone wolf. He is addicted to having new women on a constant basis. 

Today he is with a female narcissist who preys for older, married men on FB and IG, who grooms them until they leave their families. Today, he pays for this gold digger and homewrecker . 

Beatriz Grimaldi the Gold Digger in Bologna

 If homewrecking were such a fantastic thing, why do homewreckers keep so silent, only claiming to be "victims" ? 

Victims? Of what exactly? 

They destroy families, they destroy lives. 

They take away another woman's home and life. 

Beatriz Grimaldi spent months grooming Harri Mutka to leave his family. 

Beatriz Grimaldi spent months telling Harri Mutka what to do in the guise of "advice". 

Did she pay towards any home expenses? Negative.

 Did she pay towards his children? Negative. 

Did she take away the family home by convincing Harri Mutka to kick out his partner (who owns 50%)? Positive. 

Beatriz Grimaldi made it all public as well - her images, her poems (very poor quality but she calls them poems), her public posts about their long, nightly conversations. Those conversations were clockwork every day. Same time. Every. Night. 

But.. "she giggled so cutely!" according to Harri Mutka who had left for Paris on lies and deceit. 

Harri Mutka had still made future plans for his return; he still encouraged items for the family home while already with other women in Paris and paying Beatriz Grimaldi trips and holidays. 

Cute? 

Since when are gold digging homewreckers  "cute"? 

Victims? Of what?

Of the truth of their deceit and harm to others which is known, after they themselves flaunted it all in public. 

Beatriz Grimaldi in Bologna Knows How She Makes Women Homeless

 When homewreckers who prey on FB and IG and pretend to be "friends" advising married men about how to live their lives - and leave their families , when women such as Beatriz Grimaldi then flaunt their actions publicly, what is the point of complaining?

Beatriz Grimaldi knows well what she did. 

Beatriz Grimaldi knows well how she destroyed lives. 

Beatriz Grimaldi knows well how she preys for older, married men and how she uses them for her own benefit. 

No more pretence about caring about homeless women. This Beatriz Grimaldi MAKES women homeless. 

No more pretence for being "innocent" when there is plenty of evidence. 

No more lying. 

Beatriz Grimaldi is a serial homewrecker in Bologna who operates across borders. 

Nothing stops this person from destroying lives. 

Beatriz Grimaldi and Mirrors of Deceit

 

Mirror, Mirror on the wall,

Who's the meanest of them all?

Perhaps another question would be, who is the most dangerous liar of them all.  For when a woman grooms a married man to leave his family, and then screams out "victimhood" after flaunting publicly what she did, there doesn't seem to be much truth in being a "victim". 

Unless it is a warped mirror of warped truths, which in the world of some people would make sense - as long as they are supported by their sycophants and the benefits those bring. 

Female narcissists such as Beatriz Grimaldi may consider themselves above everyone and all ethics. Advising men to leave their families, rushing to meet a married man and then convincing him to take his partner's home away, may all be fine for such females. 

But is it ethical? In particular for a person who claims to be interested in homeless women, Beatriz Grimaldi took pleasure in making another woman - who she never met - homeless. 

Mirror mirror on the wall, who's the greatest liar of them all? 

With a warped sense of self-importance, overbearing in her claims of fame and insatiable self validation, manipulative and with a complete lack of empathy for those she harms, female narcissists such as Beatriz Grimaldi are no "victims". They simply do not want to be accountable for the harm they do. And Beatriz Grimaldi knew exactly what she was doing (even though she "giggled sweetly" and it was so "cute" according to Harri Mutka) . 

Warped mirrors do not reflect truths. 

Warped mirrors reflect warped minds.